Doormat is a Box

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES The New Year carries with it the energy of new beginnings. The year is stretched before us fresh, unsullied, untraveled. It’s our unique opportunity to re-evaluate, to try again, to start over with a clean slate. Relationships are often seen through this opportunistic lens at the beginning of a new[…]

Limerence at First Sight

There is a dream in our culture, which is both persistent and misleading. It is the intrusive fantasy of falling head over heels in love at first sight, pursuing and receiving reciprocated affection, and living happily ever after.  Truth is, this type of romance is purely and simply fiction.  Falling in love (lust) at first[…]

Booze and Divorce: A Cautionary Tale

A couple years ago, the Washington Post published a chart that depicts how much alcohol U.S. adults consume.  About a third of all Americans don’t drink at all.  Roughly another third of Americans drink only occasionally – at most, once every two weeks.  And a third of Americans drink moderately to heavily.  (Washington Post/Workblog, “Paying[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part two-

In Part 1 of this blog we acknowledged the uniqueness of each case and the fact that there is no formula or exact calculation to predict the total fees or length of the divorce process. We also reviewed two rules of thumb that directly relate to my observations on typical timelines and fee tiers (or[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part one-

Every one getting divorced seems to ask these two questions: how much will it cost and how long does it take. Well, every case is different, and so there is no cookie-cutter approach or exact formula to determine either the total fees or the length of the proceeding.  People who don’t have kids won’t have[…]

Until Debt Do Us Part

Financial issues in a marriage definitely create conflict, which, if left unchecked and unresolved, can lead to divorce.  Specifically, the use (or misuse) of credit by one spouse is probably one of the top reasons my clients initially come to me for advice or representation. In most states, all liabilities acquired during the marriage are[…]