Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part two-

In Part 1 of this blog we acknowledged the uniqueness of each case and the fact that there is no formula or exact calculation to predict the total fees or length of the divorce process. We also reviewed two rules of thumb that directly relate to my observations on typical timelines and fee tiers (or[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part one-

Every one getting divorced seems to ask these two questions: how much will it cost and how long does it take. Well, every case is different, and so there is no cookie-cutter approach or exact formula to determine either the total fees or the length of the proceeding.  People who don’t have kids won’t have[…]

Until Debt Do Us Part

Financial issues in a marriage definitely create conflict, which, if left unchecked and unresolved, can lead to divorce.  Specifically, the use (or misuse) of credit by one spouse is probably one of the top reasons my clients initially come to me for advice or representation. In most states, all liabilities acquired during the marriage are[…]

The Wisdom of Separating Fact from Story

I know that a lot of people (including my divorce clients and me), have to be careful about the stories we tell ourselves.  These stories either supplement, or reduce, our own personal power.  They are the basis of our happiness or they scuttle it. Let’s look at an example.  You and your three best friends[…]

To Spank or Not to Spank

TO SPANK or NOT TO SPANK Research and Thoughts About Corporal Punishment as Discipline As a kid, were you ever spanked, slapped or swatted as a form of discipline?  Did you get the belt when Dad came home?  Was your mouth ever washed out with soap?  Were you whipped with a switch?  If you were,[…]

Personal Growth & Conscious Relationships

Personal Growth The path of personal growth can be painful at times. The ancient Greek dramatist, Aeschylus, describes it as “wisdom through the awful grace of God.” I would modify this quote slightly for my own purposes to say “wisdom hard won through the awful grace of committed personal growth.” Commitment to one’s personal growth[…]

Peace in the Midst of Chaos

We’ve all experienced it in our lives – chaos. It’s what we feel when we learn the move-in date for our new home is now a month later than the closing on the sale of our current home. It’s the knot we have in our stomachs when we’re initially diagnosed with an unanticipated and unwanted[…]

Conquering Change

Why is Change Difficult and How Can We Prevail? Ever tried to implement a New Year’s resolution?  According to FranklinCovey, one third of all resolutions are broken by the end of January, and ultimately eighty percent (80%) are eventually abandoned. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying a new diet or exercise routine, or considering leaving[…]

Finding Comfort and Learning in the Shadow

Whether we’re going through a divorce, or just living life, we all experience a range of emotions – some of which are welcome, comfy, and enjoyable. Others show up like the flu – quickly, without warning and unbidden. Anger, jealousy, doubt, worry, judgment, victim-identification., indifference, comparison sarcasm, moodiness, and a whole host of others comprise this[…]