An Uncommon Bond

I recently read a great book, and I want to share it with you.  “An Uncommon Bond,” written by Jeff Brown, is a love story which illustrates how a great love can be a portal to the Divine, even if it doesn’t last a lifetime.  Love’s endings, can be very painful. However, as Jeff says,[…]

Butterflies and the Art of Embracing a Difficult Transition

  Have you ever given birth? Recovered from a broken bone? Learned a foreign language? Started a new exercise program or trained to become a long-distance runner? We go through transformation in many ways, but often that transformation involves messiness and discomfort or even pain. During your transforming time, how did you address the discomfort?[…]

Navigating Pain

Pain is ubiquitous and absolutely necessary. Why? It pushes us — beyond all the places in which we are either comfortable or stuck. Without experiencing pain we might stay in an unhealthy relationship, remain in a place which underutilizes our talents, or accept mediocrity when extraordinary is within reach. The very existence of pain in our[…]

Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Doormat is a Box

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES The New Year carries with it the energy of new beginnings. The year is stretched before us fresh, unsullied, untraveled. It’s our unique opportunity to re-evaluate, to try again, to start over with a clean slate. Relationships are often seen through this opportunistic lens at the beginning of a new[…]

The Wisdom of Separating Fact from Story

I know that a lot of people (including my divorce clients and me), have to be careful about the stories we tell ourselves.  These stories either supplement, or reduce, our own personal power.  They are the basis of our happiness or they scuttle it. Let’s look at an example.  You and your three best friends[…]

Peace in the Midst of Chaos

We’ve all experienced it in our lives – chaos. It’s what we feel when we learn the move-in date for our new home is now a month later than the closing on the sale of our current home. It’s the knot we have in our stomachs when we’re initially diagnosed with an unanticipated and unwanted[…]