Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Personal Growth & Conscious Relationships

Personal Growth The path of personal growth can be painful at times. The ancient Greek dramatist, Aeschylus, describes it as “wisdom through the awful grace of God.” I would modify this quote slightly for my own purposes to say “wisdom hard won through the awful grace of committed personal growth.” Commitment to one’s personal growth[…]

Love the Life You Have

Did you end up someplace you never anticipated? Maybe you were divorced after more than 20 years of marriage or are unexpectedly childless? Perhaps you are moving and living someplace totally unanticipated or discovering a new career after decades doing something else?  Are you finding yourself at mid-life with many of your dreams yet unrealized?[…]

Your Abundant Life

It’s the time of year when it is easy to become overwhelmed with expectations, scarcity, and the demands of the season: gifts, food, and decorations. My brother Joe always gives the kids awesome (and expensive!) gifts. Will my kids even notice the presents I give? Did I buy enough food? I probably need more crescent[…]

Dealing with Disappointment in Divorce

If you are getting divorced, you are familiar with disappointment.  You might be disappointed in your spouse.  You might be disappointed in the process.  Or you might be disappointed in yourself. If you didn’t want the divorce, it’s going to be thrust upon you.  If you did want the divorce, it won’t come as quickly[…]

The Five Stages of Grieving the Death of Your Marriage

Over the years of teaching many divorce information seminars, on two separate occasions I had an attendee who was currently facing divorce, but who had also formerly lost a spouse to death. Each attendee talked about how hard the divorce was in comparison to losing their first spouse to death. With death, they said, there[…]

Divorce: an Opportunity to Reclaim Personal Power & Create Life Anew

Perhaps more than any other life transition, other than death, divorce heralds the greatest opportunity to change one’s inner and outer landscapes. Often the externals change, regardless.  Divorcing parties have to square up to and resolve such issues as creating parenting time arrangements for their kids, dividing assets and liabilities, and selling the homestead and[…]