Butterflies and the Art of Embracing a Difficult Transition

  Have you ever given birth? Recovered from a broken bone? Learned a foreign language? Started a new exercise program or trained to become a long-distance runner? We go through transformation in many ways, but often that transformation involves messiness and discomfort or even pain. During your transforming time, how did you address the discomfort?[…]

Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part two-

In Part 1 of this blog we acknowledged the uniqueness of each case and the fact that there is no formula or exact calculation to predict the total fees or length of the divorce process. We also reviewed two rules of thumb that directly relate to my observations on typical timelines and fee tiers (or[…]

To Spank or Not to Spank

TO SPANK or NOT TO SPANK Research and Thoughts About Corporal Punishment as Discipline As a kid, were you ever spanked, slapped or swatted as a form of discipline?  Did you get the belt when Dad came home?  Was your mouth ever washed out with soap?  Were you whipped with a switch?  If you were,[…]

Conquering Change

Why is Change Difficult and How Can We Prevail? Ever tried to implement a New Year’s resolution?  According to FranklinCovey, one third of all resolutions are broken by the end of January, and ultimately eighty percent (80%) are eventually abandoned. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying a new diet or exercise routine, or considering leaving[…]

The Surprising Purpose of Anger

ANGER! Everyone feels it from time to time.  For some, it seems to be an ever-present emotion, which, even once venting has occurred, does not relent or even recede. Where does anger come from and why can it linger? The dictionary defines anger as “a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong;[…]

Why We Stay

What do dog trainers, psychologists, casino owners, and parents of toddlers have in common? They are all familiar with the concept of intermittent reinforcement. Intermittent reinforcement occurs when rewards, rules or personal boundaries are given out, or enforced, sporadically.  This encourages the animal, the child or the other adult to keep pushing until they get[…]