An Uncommon Bond

I recently read a great book, and I want to share it with you.  “An Uncommon Bond,” written by Jeff Brown, is a love story which illustrates how a great love can be a portal to the Divine, even if it doesn’t last a lifetime.  Love’s endings, can be very painful. However, as Jeff says,[…]

Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Doormat is a Box

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES The New Year carries with it the energy of new beginnings. The year is stretched before us fresh, unsullied, untraveled. It’s our unique opportunity to re-evaluate, to try again, to start over with a clean slate. Relationships are often seen through this opportunistic lens at the beginning of a new[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part two-

In Part 1 of this blog we acknowledged the uniqueness of each case and the fact that there is no formula or exact calculation to predict the total fees or length of the divorce process. We also reviewed two rules of thumb that directly relate to my observations on typical timelines and fee tiers (or[…]

The Wisdom of Separating Fact from Story

I know that a lot of people (including my divorce clients and me), have to be careful about the stories we tell ourselves.  These stories either supplement, or reduce, our own personal power.  They are the basis of our happiness or they scuttle it. Let’s look at an example.  You and your three best friends[…]

Conquering Change

Why is Change Difficult and How Can We Prevail? Ever tried to implement a New Year’s resolution?  According to FranklinCovey, one third of all resolutions are broken by the end of January, and ultimately eighty percent (80%) are eventually abandoned. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying a new diet or exercise routine, or considering leaving[…]

Using the Golden Rule for a Wise Divorce

My recent Facebook post featuring a quote by Catherine Ponder raised a few eyebrows and even drew an expletive as a comment!  If you missed it, here’s the quote: “If you have to force someone or something into your life, that is not part of your good.  What you have to fight to get, you[…]