Divorce Wisely:  Resurrecting the Dream of What Was

Have you ever gotten to the end of your relationship or marriage, and wondered what happened to all the joy and all the love and all the promises of an enduring, lifelong connection? Have you wondered “when did we shift gears from the deep love that we shared to…this?  How did we get here?” Have[…]

Butterflies and the Art of Embracing a Difficult Transition

  Have you ever given birth? Recovered from a broken bone? Learned a foreign language? Started a new exercise program or trained to become a long-distance runner? We go through transformation in many ways, but often that transformation involves messiness and discomfort or even pain. During your transforming time, how did you address the discomfort?[…]

Navigating Pain

Pain is ubiquitous and absolutely necessary. Why? It pushes us — beyond all the places in which we are either comfortable or stuck. Without experiencing pain we might stay in an unhealthy relationship, remain in a place which underutilizes our talents, or accept mediocrity when extraordinary is within reach. The very existence of pain in our[…]

Over-Giving

Over-Giving: New Year, New Life Series Opposites attract, as the old saying goes.  European Society of Human Genetics has even found scientific evidence as to why this occurs.  Apparently, if we’re in our child-bearing years, we look for partners who are different from us to expand the genetic building blocks for the benefit of our[…]

Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part one-

Every one getting divorced seems to ask these two questions: how much will it cost and how long does it take. Well, every case is different, and so there is no cookie-cutter approach or exact formula to determine either the total fees or the length of the proceeding.  People who don’t have kids won’t have[…]

The Wisdom of Separating Fact from Story

I know that a lot of people (including my divorce clients and me), have to be careful about the stories we tell ourselves.  These stories either supplement, or reduce, our own personal power.  They are the basis of our happiness or they scuttle it. Let’s look at an example.  You and your three best friends[…]