Personal Growth & Conscious Relationships

Personal Growth The path of personal growth can be painful at times. The ancient Greek dramatist, Aeschylus, describes it as “wisdom through the awful grace of God.” I would modify this quote slightly for my own purposes to say “wisdom hard won through the awful grace of committed personal growth.” Commitment to one’s personal growth[…]

Peace in the Midst of Chaos

We’ve all experienced it in our lives – chaos. It’s what we feel when we learn the move-in date for our new home is now a month later than the closing on the sale of our current home. It’s the knot we have in our stomachs when we’re initially diagnosed with an unanticipated and unwanted[…]

Marriage Vows vs. Partnership Theory

When two people stand at the altar and pledge themselves to each another in marriage, they do so through vows. These vows often go something like “to love, cherish and honor until death do us part.” To me, the statement of the vows is the most poignant part of the marriage ceremony. Why? Because it[…]

Taking Blame Out of the Equation – Divorce Wisely

We all do it, don’t we?  We blame.  Sometimes we blame ourselves.  Sometimes we blame others.  There’s a certain addictive quality to the righteousness, and the closure, both of which are part and parcel of fault-finding. Blame is defined as assigning responsibility for a fault or a wrong.  Blame can be directed at ourselves (self-blame)[…]

Divorce: Forgive For Your Own Good

When my clients ask me about what I would recommend for “required reading” during their divorce, I always mention Dr. Fred Luskin’s book, “Forgive for Good, A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness.” Dr. Luskin is the co-founder and the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, and conducts an ongoing series of workshops and[…]