Butterflies and the Art of Embracing a Difficult Transition

  Have you ever given birth? Recovered from a broken bone? Learned a foreign language? Started a new exercise program or trained to become a long-distance runner? We go through transformation in many ways, but often that transformation involves messiness and discomfort or even pain. During your transforming time, how did you address the discomfort?[…]

The Wisdom of Separating Fact from Story

I know that a lot of people (including my divorce clients and me), have to be careful about the stories we tell ourselves.  These stories either supplement, or reduce, our own personal power.  They are the basis of our happiness or they scuttle it. Let’s look at an example.  You and your three best friends[…]

Your Abundant Life

It’s the time of year when it is easy to become overwhelmed with expectations, scarcity, and the demands of the season: gifts, food, and decorations. My brother Joe always gives the kids awesome (and expensive!) gifts. Will my kids even notice the presents I give? Did I buy enough food? I probably need more crescent[…]

Divorce: Forgive For Your Own Good

When my clients ask me about what I would recommend for “required reading” during their divorce, I always mention Dr. Fred Luskin’s book, “Forgive for Good, A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness.” Dr. Luskin is the co-founder and the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, and conducts an ongoing series of workshops and[…]