Navigating Pain

Pain is ubiquitous and absolutely necessary. Why? It pushes us — beyond all the places in which we are either comfortable or stuck. Without experiencing pain we might stay in an unhealthy relationship, remain in a place which underutilizes our talents, or accept mediocrity when extraordinary is within reach. The very existence of pain in our[…]

Let it Go

NEW YEAR, NEW LIFE SERIES I don’t know that letting go is ever easy. Most of the things I’ve had to let go of, be they relationships, expectations, attachments, hopes, fantasies, misconceptions, you name it, have all had claw marks in them. Releasing the old, and embracing the new, hasn’t been my strong suit. I’m[…]

Conquering Change

Why is Change Difficult and How Can We Prevail? Ever tried to implement a New Year’s resolution?  According to FranklinCovey, one third of all resolutions are broken by the end of January, and ultimately eighty percent (80%) are eventually abandoned. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying a new diet or exercise routine, or considering leaving[…]

Love the Life You Have

Did you end up someplace you never anticipated? Maybe you were divorced after more than 20 years of marriage or are unexpectedly childless? Perhaps you are moving and living someplace totally unanticipated or discovering a new career after decades doing something else?  Are you finding yourself at mid-life with many of your dreams yet unrealized?[…]

Is Divorce the Only Option?

Some people know exactly what they need, when they need it, and how to get it.  The rest of us need to try different options on for size to find out what is the best fit.  Many of us have to sit with things for a while before the way becomes clear.This is often very[…]

Avoid Divorce – Pick the Right Partner Using Science (Attachment Theory)

What is this subject doing in a blog about divorce? Well, if you don’t want to get divorced (again), you will definitely want to read this! Adult attachment theory may well be the most important key to creating healthy, functional intimate relationships.  It may also expose the underlying problem in most marriages that end up[…]

Divorce: an Opportunity to Reclaim Personal Power & Create Life Anew

Perhaps more than any other life transition, other than death, divorce heralds the greatest opportunity to change one’s inner and outer landscapes. Often the externals change, regardless.  Divorcing parties have to square up to and resolve such issues as creating parenting time arrangements for their kids, dividing assets and liabilities, and selling the homestead and[…]