Frequently Asked Questions about Divorce

How much will a divorce cost? How long does the “normal” divorce last? Do I really need a divorce attorney? How much does the average divorce attorney cost? What is an initial divorce consultation? How should I prepare for one? How can I find a good attorney? What do we tell the kids? Do we[…]

Divorce: How Much and How Long? -part one-

Every one getting divorced seems to ask these two questions: how much will it cost and how long does it take. Well, every case is different, and so there is no cookie-cutter approach or exact formula to determine either the total fees or the length of the proceeding.  People who don’t have kids won’t have[…]

Personal Growth & Conscious Relationships

Personal Growth The path of personal growth can be painful at times. The ancient Greek dramatist, Aeschylus, describes it as “wisdom through the awful grace of God.” I would modify this quote slightly for my own purposes to say “wisdom hard won through the awful grace of committed personal growth.” Commitment to one’s personal growth[…]

The Five Stages of Grieving the Death of Your Marriage

Over the years of teaching many divorce information seminars, on two separate occasions I had an attendee who was currently facing divorce, but who had also formerly lost a spouse to death. Each attendee talked about how hard the divorce was in comparison to losing their first spouse to death. With death, they said, there[…]

Divorce: an Opportunity to Reclaim Personal Power & Create Life Anew

Perhaps more than any other life transition, other than death, divorce heralds the greatest opportunity to change one’s inner and outer landscapes. Often the externals change, regardless.  Divorcing parties have to square up to and resolve such issues as creating parenting time arrangements for their kids, dividing assets and liabilities, and selling the homestead and[…]

Divorce: Forgive For Your Own Good

When my clients ask me about what I would recommend for “required reading” during their divorce, I always mention Dr. Fred Luskin’s book, “Forgive for Good, A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness.” Dr. Luskin is the co-founder and the director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project, and conducts an ongoing series of workshops and[…]