Over-Giving

Over-Giving: New Year, New Life Series Opposites attract, as the old saying goes.  European Society of Human Genetics has even found scientific evidence as to why this occurs.  Apparently, if we’re in our child-bearing years, we look for partners who are different from us to expand the genetic building blocks for the benefit of our[…]

Booze and Divorce: A Cautionary Tale

A couple years ago, the Washington Post published a chart that depicts how much alcohol U.S. adults consume.  About a third of all Americans don’t drink at all.  Roughly another third of Americans drink only occasionally – at most, once every two weeks.  And a third of Americans drink moderately to heavily.  (Washington Post/Workblog, “Paying[…]

To Spank or Not to Spank

TO SPANK or NOT TO SPANK Research and Thoughts About Corporal Punishment as Discipline As a kid, were you ever spanked, slapped or swatted as a form of discipline?  Did you get the belt when Dad came home?  Was your mouth ever washed out with soap?  Were you whipped with a switch?  If you were,[…]

Peace in the Midst of Chaos

We’ve all experienced it in our lives – chaos. It’s what we feel when we learn the move-in date for our new home is now a month later than the closing on the sale of our current home. It’s the knot we have in our stomachs when we’re initially diagnosed with an unanticipated and unwanted[…]

Using the Golden Rule for a Wise Divorce

My recent Facebook post featuring a quote by Catherine Ponder raised a few eyebrows and even drew an expletive as a comment!  If you missed it, here’s the quote: “If you have to force someone or something into your life, that is not part of your good.  What you have to fight to get, you[…]

Divorce Wisely by Understanding the Body’s Stress Response

  Your spouse just told you that he/she wants a divorce.  Your breathing quickens and becomes shallow.  Your heart races and feels like it’s beating out of your chest.  Your palms begin to sweat.  You want to bolt.  You literally can’t think of anything to say.   What the heck just happened? You had a[…]

Divorce and the Practice of Gratitude

For many people, going through a divorce is one of the most painful events of their lives.  When I ask my clients how they’re doing emotionally while we’re making our way through the legal process, I usually hear responses such as “ugh, it’s tough,” or “it’s so painful,” or “I feel afraid and uncertain of[…]