Booze and Divorce: A Cautionary Tale

A couple years ago, the Washington Post published a chart that depicts how much alcohol U.S. adults consume.  About a third of all Americans don’t drink at all.  Roughly another third of Americans drink only occasionally – at most, once every two weeks.  And a third of Americans drink moderately to heavily.  (Washington Post/Workblog, “Paying[…]

Peace in the Midst of Chaos

We’ve all experienced it in our lives – chaos. It’s what we feel when we learn the move-in date for our new home is now a month later than the closing on the sale of our current home. It’s the knot we have in our stomachs when we’re initially diagnosed with an unanticipated and unwanted[…]

The Holidays – Gifts and Parenting Time Schedules

The holidays are here! For many, this means celebrating with family and friends, good food, time off from work and maybe a present or two!  But, for those who are either separated or divorced (with or without children), the holidays can add a heaping measure of anxiety, frustration and sometimes even dread. If you have[…]

Divorce: Will the Kids Be Okay?

Are my kids going to be okay if we get divorced? This is probably the number one question most clients have when I meet with them for the first time. What I tell my clients is this:  The research is pretty clear.  Your kids will be changed as a result of the divorce.  Divorce is[…]

Is Divorce the Only Option?

Some people know exactly what they need, when they need it, and how to get it.  The rest of us need to try different options on for size to find out what is the best fit.  Many of us have to sit with things for a while before the way becomes clear.This is often very[…]

Divorce Wisely by Understanding the Body’s Stress Response

  Your spouse just told you that he/she wants a divorce.  Your breathing quickens and becomes shallow.  Your heart races and feels like it’s beating out of your chest.  Your palms begin to sweat.  You want to bolt.  You literally can’t think of anything to say.   What the heck just happened? You had a[…]

Divorce and the Practice of Gratitude

For many people, going through a divorce is one of the most painful events of their lives.  When I ask my clients how they’re doing emotionally while we’re making our way through the legal process, I usually hear responses such as “ugh, it’s tough,” or “it’s so painful,” or “I feel afraid and uncertain of[…]