Why We Stay

What do dog trainers, psychologists, casino owners, and parents of toddlers have in common? They are all familiar with the concept of intermittent reinforcement. Intermittent reinforcement occurs when rewards, rules or personal boundaries are given out, or enforced, sporadically.  This encourages the animal, the child or the other adult to keep pushing until they get[…]

Dealing with Disappointment in Divorce

If you are getting divorced, you are familiar with disappointment.  You might be disappointed in your spouse.  You might be disappointed in the process.  Or you might be disappointed in yourself. If you didn’t want the divorce, it’s going to be thrust upon you.  If you did want the divorce, it won’t come as quickly[…]

Divorce: an Opportunity to Reclaim Personal Power & Create Life Anew

Perhaps more than any other life transition, other than death, divorce heralds the greatest opportunity to change one’s inner and outer landscapes. Often the externals change, regardless.  Divorcing parties have to square up to and resolve such issues as creating parenting time arrangements for their kids, dividing assets and liabilities, and selling the homestead and[…]