What does "Divorce Wisely" Mean?
Relationships are the most important asset in divorce.
While a marriage might end, the relationships formed during marriage – such as parent-child – continue forever.
Divorce is simply a legal mechanism that restructures families. Instead of one roof, the family will live under two roofs - with legal obligations between them.
Knowing this, we should actively protect relationships as they are renovated through the divorce process. It is critical that we navigate the divorce process by making conscious, wise decisions, and take advantage of personal growth and self-improvement opportunities that are inherent in divorce (learn how in the book "Marriages End. Families Don't. Divorce Wisely.").
How you “show up” during and after the divorce process directly affects its outcomes. Will you be manipulative, retributive, and judgmental? Or will you choose a path of integrity, respect, and wisdom – regardless of your spouse’s actions?
Choosing to divorce wisely will give you space to make informed decisions that reflect your values. It fosters efficiency and cost-effectiveness. It frees you to grow in confidence and to prepare for your new life after divorce.
Like most transitions in life, divorce can be done well or it can be done poorly. You can choose to do it well. You can choose to divorce wisely.
Marriages End. Families Don't. Divorce Wisely.
MARRIAGES END. FAMILIES DON'T. DIVORCE WISELY.
The essential guide for navigating the divorce process.
This book is the comprehensive guide for anyone contemplating divorce or currently divorcing. Easy to read, this book will assist you in evaluating whether your marriage may be headed toward divorce, and what options are available to you if you decide to divorce.
Divorce Wisely is the essential handbook for navigating the legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce. It provides the information you need to make conscious, wise decisions, and take advantage of personal growth and self-improvement opportunities that are inherent in divorce.
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